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I was four years old and had just started preschool. It was so exciting! We were here to “work”.
On the desk in front of me was some thick card onto which a toadstool had been drawn, including dots and stylised blades of grass at the bottom.
I decided that I’d do my very best. The idea was for us to punch holes. I punched out a chimney on the toadstool and created a little door that – please note – could actually open. Finally, I drew some gnomes in the grass.
Once finished, I proudly showed my handiwork to the teacher. But she wasn’t impressed at all. I’d done everything wrong. I shouldn’t have drawn and I definitely wasn’t supposed to punch outside the lines.
This incident sums up my whole life. I’m an autonomous, creative thinker and doer, who finds it easy to step into the space beyond the boundaries. I am visionary in my creativity and – by practical means – draw the future closer towards me.
I’ve developed a love for processes. Change among people and in organisations does not happen spontaneously. Bare earth is never going to yield crops. Instead, the ground has to be tilled and the plants tended before any harvest is possible.
Developing processes and setting up quality systems can result in useful resources, but should never be the sole objective.
A good conversation
I’m no stranger to the loneliness that leadership brings with it, but I’ve learnt how to endure it. I’ve mainly succeeded by finding connection. Connection with my heart through training, coaching and interaction with others. It is only when I look in the mirror that others hold up to me that I find connection with my complete story, my motives, dark side and richness.
When it comes to individual coaching, I participate in examining the themes of life and connect with the system of descent. I like to work with metaphors and themes found in art, the Bible, the Mahabharata and movies.
Get to work
I repair the connection when faced with difficult or complicated situations in (working) relationships, teams and organisations. My interventions bring people back into contact with their motives. Sometimes, this results in decisions made beyond the organisations that they work for. And sometimes, it results in renewal and change within teams. Here, I work at all levels within organisations with the aim of perpetuating change.
I like to be handed problems for which no solution is in sight.
Thanks to my vast experience as supervisor, administrator and manager, and having started out as a social worker, I am able to identify with all positions within an organisation. The “complete story” applies to my organisational coaching. I don’t believe that a team can make good strategic decisions if mutual cooperation within it is overshadowed by taboos or secrets.
I wholly support a statement by Rik Torfs, which reads, “I’m a great supporter of paradoxes. They show us the depth of life.” Quoted from Dutch daily, Trouw, 15-07-2017..
Maarten, my husband, and I (read more about us here) both offer training courses. We enjoy working together, but we also develop our own courses on a regular basis.
I develop tailor-made training courses that cover a wide range of topics. An example is the course “Dedication to your profession / dedication as a fuel”.
Organisations should use dedication as a fuel. In my experience, protocols, rules and production deadlines are becoming goals in their own capacity that are disconnected from actual reality.
Education, healthcare and welfare professionals are being bogged down by administrative responsibilities and regulations, making them lose inspiration and a connection to their profession. They have chosen their profession because of their love and passion for it. So, for the sake of effectiveness, freedom to make mistakes and room for spare time must be created.
This training is focused on connecting with freedom, inspiration and a love for your profession again.
Quality is expressed in terms of experiences. “My child is in good hands at this school”, “I’ll be sending my mother to this care home”.
How do organisations achieve results? How can processes be arranged so that employees feel inspired and responsible for quality? Evaluation is an option, of course. With evaluation, you as an organisation know where you stand. But it’s even more important to make results meaningful. In other words, what you will be DOING once you know where you stand?
I like offering advice when it comes to implementing quality processes and adding meaning to results. In addition to this, my coaching focuses on making the involved employees feel responsible for quality.
Here, I draw from my vast experience as a lead auditor.
Let yourself fall
“Let yourself fall.
Learn to observe snakes.
Plant impossible gardens.
Let someone dangerous in for tea.
Make small signs that say “yes”
and spread them all over your house.
Become a friend of freedom and uncertainty.
Look forward to dreaming.
Cry at the movies.
Swing as high as you can on a swing at moonlight.
Maintain different moods.
Refuse to be “responsible”.
Do it out of love.
Take a lot of naps.
Pass on money. Do it now.
The money will follow.
Laugh a lot. Bathe in the moonlight.
Dream wild, imaginative dreams.
Draw on the walls. Read every day.
Imagine you are enchanted.
Giggle with children. Listen to old people.
Open yourself. Dive in. Be free.
Praise Yourself. Let go of fear.
Play with everything. Preserve the child in you.
You are innocent.
Build a castle of covers
Get wet. Hug trees.
Partnership, VOF Het Hele Verhaal
I’m so glad that you’ve found us here on the website of VOF Het Hele Verhaal, a partnership between Maarten Moens and Denise Veldhuis. It’s all about the truth as a weapon, the truth that frees us, the truth that connects.
We had both divorced when we first met. Our meeting was preceded by a painful period filled with conflict, grief and parting.
We took what life was offering and decided to go along with our new love for one another and everything that came with it. And we’re still doing that to this day.
One of the first things we agreed on was, ‘We’re not holding back’. This meant that we’d allow whatever lived inside us to be expressed and experienced. We still uphold this motto after 18 years, although we occasionally have to remind each other about it. We’re trying to tell our own ‘complete story’. Working with ‘the complete message’ has also systematically become a tool that we use to guide people, teams and organisations.
Many teams are affected by taboos – ‘undercurrents’ that people never talk about, but that are felt and experienced. By making work something that frees and heals people, which is the aim of our intervention, these matters can be discussed and placed on the agenda.
The individual guidance (coaching) of people also often involves the observance, awakening to and discussion of thoughts, feelings and impulses that are hidden or subconscious.
When we ‘complete’ the story that that we tell about ourselves, we become integral people. Flesh-and-blood people with bright sides and dark sides, who know their own strengths and weaknesses.
We like to use metaphors and stories. “The Hero’s Journey” (popularised by Joseph Campbell) can offer insights to give you a better understanding about your own journey.
Maarten is a song coach and biographical counsellor, and also works with groups of men. Read more about Maarten and his activities at www.maartenmoens.nl. And on this website you’ll find more information about me, Denise Veldhuis, and what I have to offer.